Abundance

It’s been one of THOSE weeks over here. You know, the kind of week when you feel like you’re going a million miles an hour and not doing anything WELL? I hope I’m not the only one who has those weeks.

This week, there was a TON of work to be done at work. On top of the usual shaping of young minds and curriculum development and trying to be more interesting than a cell phone video, there was also a ton of meetings and evaluations and paperwork. These things suck the life out of me.

This week, I talked with ALL of the kids’ teachers via email, because my children are amazing, complicated humans with challenges that we should definitely talk about, but please-can-we-have-the-conference-next-week because I do not have the energy.

This week, I spent hours on the phone with doctors and insurance companies. And then I took my amazing, strong, funny, brave kid to a hospital where we spent half our time correcting the staff who can’t get his name right, and then the other half wiping his tears or his vomit or rubbing his back because this damned injection is so painful.

This week, my husband’s truck became unsafe to drive and not worth fixing and I postponed some payments and sold some stuff so we could make a down payment on a new one, and he’s relieved and safe but I wish it didn’t require so much juggling.

This week, I was mean to my husband. The man isn’t a saint, but oh-dear-Lord-he-deserves-a-medal-for-tolerating-me-this-week. Every time he tried to talk to me, I was so anxious/crabby/distracted that I barely responded. Or if I did, it was in single syllables or grunts or tears.

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Today, I got up early and lay in bed, chatting with my husband. I felt the weight of his arm across my waist and his breath on my neck and I thought to myself, “Breathe this in. Notice this feeling of safety and peace. You have this blessing in abundance.”

Today, my son and I spent the morning at the hospital. Then we went out to lunch, just the two of us. We laughed and talked and I thought to myself, “Remember this moment. Remember the laughter, the connection, and the pride you feel. You are abundantly blessed.”

Today, the gorgeous weather called me outside and my hammock called my name. As I lay there, I looked up at the view of the leafless trees and breathed in the fresh air on this oddly warm November day, and I thought to myself, “Save this picture in your mind. This is the soothing beauty and calm of nature. This is available to you in abundance.”

Today, I picked up a package from the post office. My mother sent me a box full of beautiful things that made me smile, and I thought, “You have family who cares for you and loves you unconditionally. You are abundantly loved.”

Today, I got a card in the mail. It was unexpected, from someone I respect and admire, whom I haven’t seen in decades. She reads my writing, and she sent me a gift. I cried as I read her card, and I thought to myself, “You have been supported by amazing people throughout every age and stage in your life. You are abundantly blessed.”

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My biggest anxieties arise from perceived scarcity. There’s always a fear that there won’t be enough; there won’t be enough time, or enough patience, or enough money.

But we live in a world of abundant blessings. Even as I write that, I realize that I sound like a Pollyanna who doesn’t live in reality, but hear me out. When we reach out to others, when we love abundantly and we give generously and we exude gratitude, it impacts the people around us. When we notice each and every simple blessing, it helps us to put things in perspective.

Feeling stressed about getting dinner on the table? Notice the leftovers in the fridge. Or the cereal in the pantry. Be grateful for the abundance.

Feeling impatient with the kids? Notice their lengthening limbs and admire their artwork and listen to them read. Remind yourself that they are blessings. Smelly, loud blessings, but blessings nonetheless.

Worried about the car payment or the cable bill? Pay attention to the clothes on your back and the roof over your head and be grateful for this moment instead of fearing a future that may or may not come to be. And what will happen if they turn off the cable? You’ll have to play board games with your kids and read books and build a fire in the fireplace. It will be okay. They will survive without wifi. Or you can all go to the library. Imagine that!

This shift affects the people around you. When you notice blessings, you become a blessing to others. When you focus on fears and anxieties and worries, you radiate fear and anxiety and worry. It is contagious.

It is also a cycle. I received a lot of blessings today. I will put them to use. I will enjoy them and appreciate them. When the time comes, when it’s my turn, I will pass them on to others, with peace and joy and gratitude.